✅ DO's

• Show appreciation through acts of service or small gifts. ISTPs value practical expressions of care, so a thoughtful gesture will resonate with them.
• Take the lead socially. Whether it's making the first move or initiating conversation or a fun activity, ISTPs appreciate your outgoingness and willingness to engage.
• See things from a realistic perspective. Be grounded in your approach to life and the relationship—ISTPs admire logical and practical thinking.
• Pay attention to the details. They notice small things, so being observant and considerate of details can make a strong impression.
• Laugh along with their sarcastic humor. ISTPs often have a sharp, sarcastic sense of humor, so being able to appreciate and laugh with them is key to bonding.
• Be direct about your feelings. If you like them, make it clear—subtle hints might go unnoticed, so being straightforward is more effective.
• Be open-minded and adventurous. ISTPs enjoy new experiences, so being willing to explore and take on adventures together will keep them engaged.
• Give them personal space and independence. ISTPs highly value their autonomy, so showing that you respect their need for space is important.
• Be physically active and attractive. Keeping a healthy and active lifestyle is something ISTPs appreciate, as they tend to enjoy outdoor and physical activities themselves.
• Have your own hobbies and interests. Maintaining your own passions and interests will make you more interesting and show that you’re self-sufficient.
• Appreciate their need for flexibility. Avoid rigid expectations—ISTPs prefer relationships that allow room for flexibility and spontaneity.
• Show affection through actions. Rather than overt emotional displays, ISTPs appreciate affection shown through practical, action-oriented gestures.
• Be willing to enjoy comfortable silences. Not every moment needs to be filled with conversation—being content in quiet moments is something ISTPs value.

❌ DON'Ts

• Don’t push them to socialize too much. While ISTPs enjoy spending time with you, don't pressure them to constantly socialize—they may find it draining.
• Don’t pressure them to talk about their feelings. Let them open up in their own time—forcing deep emotional conversations too early can push them away.
• Don’t send too many texts or calls. Constant communication can feel suffocating to ISTPs—be mindful of not coming off as clingy or needy.
• Don’t be passive-aggressive, manipulative, or controlling. ISTPs value honesty and independence, so any attempt to manipulate or control them will not be tolerated.
• Don’t give the impression of being needy or overly emotional. They appreciate partners who are independent and emotionally stable—avoid excessive displays of neediness.